Miss Manners: In-laws keep sending food gifts that vegan can’t eat


dear lady manners: I adopted a vegan lifestyle three years ago. My husband didn’t, but we found a way to live together peacefully. increase.

I have made sure my husband appreciates these gifts, but I am silent about them. I will write it down. Should I thank my parents-in-law for the food I can’t eat? If so what should I say?

whether their motives Miss Manners advises against accepting the challenge if it is about taunting you or simply giving your husband a treat you believe you would not get otherwise. Not even — your husband appropriately does so because it seems meant only for him.

But perhaps you feel obligated to mention that they “included” you in the gift. Thank you.

dear lady manners: What does “creative formal” mean in a New Year’s Eve party invitation?

probably we It means “trying too hard”.

dear lady manners: I have been hosting Christmas morning brunch for friends and family for the past 15 years or so. This is my gift to my friends and family for their support and friendship. Most guests bring a small hostess gift, such as a bottle of wine or a candle.

This year, longtime attendees/guests left envelopes with cash, and it wasn’t a trivial amount. I don’t think cash is appropriate as a gift for the hostess, so I’m at a loss as to how to deal with it. Frankly, it makes me uncomfortable.

One thought would be to donate money to charity and let guests know I did so in their name. suggestion?

money is often Your guests may not realize how insulting it is to treat your hospitality as a commercial venture instead of a recent present. .

It may be commendable, but it makes no sense to donate money. Only accept the idea that the payment is legitimate and can be used as you choose. Miss Manners advises returning it with an explanation that he cannot accept money because this person was your guest.

dear lady manners: Suppose a person verbalizes how much he likes a gift, how he enjoys using it, etc., but never actually says the word “thank you.” Is this considered inappropriate?

when there is an intention Is it to clearly convey the essence of gratitude rather than the expression? No, it’s not wrong. But Miss Manners thinks it’s ugly to invent technical reasons to compete with expressions of goodwill.

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